Escondido, CA

‘Setting the record straight’



Ever since we first laid eyes on that special someone in a 3rd grade classroom, we became familiar with the phrase, “a broken heart,” right? The very first time your heart “fluttered” for someone, the opportunity was afforded for it to be broken.

Of course, our hearts can be broken in many ways. The high school sweetheart who went away to college. The son who joined the military and came back draped in a flag. The spouse who left you for someone else. The friend you hoped to grow old with suddenly passing away.

The thing that really breaks my heart is, well, when someone becomes bitter towards God when their heart is broken. Sure, I can understand why, of course, because he’s God! “God, why did you allow this to happen?” How one responds to their heart being broken will determine a blessed future or a bitter one.

Allow me to “set the record straight” regarding why God allows our hearts to be broken. When God created the first man and woman, Adam and Eve, He could have made them robots with no choice but to love and serve Him, yet the very reason they were created was for relationship, which involves the choice to love God back or not. Unfortunately, Adam and Eve chose the latter. Consequentially, sin entered the world, and humanity has been in a general state of suffrage to this day.

Oh, but the way to look at this is so beautiful. How can I discern what beauty even is if it were not contrasted to ugliness? In the context of having a broken heart, how can I not experience the following truth about God if I have not been crushed? “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. He rescues all (who allow Him to) who are discouraged and have given up hope” (Psalms 34:18 – NIV and CEV)?

Oh friend, if you will allow God to rescue you, then you will surely find Him to be “a God of all compassion and comfort, who will comfort you in all your troubles.” (2 Corinthians 1:3). And you will find real purpose, through a relationship with His Son Jesus Christ, in your sufferings!

And what is the purpose of our suffering? “Be glad when you are tempted to blame God for your suffering! Because you’re blessed with the opportunity to endure in your faith. If you rely on God to get you through, you will eventually be mature and complete, not lacking anything!” (Inspired from James 1:2-4)

Now, that’s something worthy of having my heart broken for.

~ Paul and Danica Bartelme have been married for 22 years and have three children age 12 years and under. Jacob (12), Lily (11), and Luke (9). They’ve been residents of Escondido for 11 years and love Harley motorcycles and good music. They pastor Escondido’s very own Sanctuary Church.

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